Bi dating profiles
You can actually see these trends in action in the chart below. I couldn’t see your heterosexual privilege clearly enough before.
They’re framing bisexuality as one of those factors that users mis-report in order to appear more attractive to others.
Of all the mainstream dating sites I visited (mainstream meaning it serves the general population), OKC is the only one that acknowledges the existence of bisexuality and allows its users to search for both men and women.
All the others make their users “choose one or the other” up front—you’re either looking for men or for women, select one, and only one, upon registration—and stick with it, or they only allow for heterosexual matches.
More importantly, don’t project your own confusion onto our identities.
I understand that the idea of bisexuality is still confusing to a lot of people, and perhaps it helps to manage your confusion by deciding who gets to use the label of bisexual.
This suggests that bisexuality is often either a hedge for gay people or a label adopted by straights to appear more sexually adventurous to their (straight) matches.
Here is their reasoning for putting it on the list along with being tall, wealthy, and beautiful: it can be used as a hedge for gay people or a way for straights to appear more sexually adventurous.
It’s what you hear when either gay people are afraid to commit to their “true” minority status, or when straight people (usually women) want to appear more exciting.
To their credit, most of the guys who messaged me at least succeeded in appearing to be interested because of my personality and/or pretty face, rather than the threesome factor.
I’ll never forget my first day on the site, however, when about six men IMed me before I even had a profile online, and at least two of them immediately wanted to talk about my bisexuality.